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It's none of your business if I'm pregnant. |
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Submitted by DCB
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Most people would know better than to ask. I think you learn it pretty early on in life - never ask a woman if she's pregnant. That lesson apparently escaped my assistant. I took a sick day from work, legitimately staying home with what would turn out to be the worst cold I've had in years. I was working from my couch, however, and emailing back and forth with my assistant. Suddenly, out of nowhere she emails "are u pregnant?" For starters, let me preface this rant with the fact that I was not offended (truth be told, I really am pregnant though, at the time, I hadn't even told my family because it was so early on). What astounded me and pisses me off is that she felt totally justified in asking! Let's review the plethora of reasons why you don't ask this question: --maybe I'm pregnant/maybe I'm not
--maybe I'm keeping it/maybe I'm not
--maybe it's my husband's/boyfriend's/maybe it's not
--maybe I've been trying and am not having luck
--maybe I just lost the baby
--maybe I'm barren and will never have children When I pointed out to her that it was an inappropriate question, she was basically like "I was just ready to congratulate you if you were." Like it was no big deal because she had good intentions. Let this be known to all who wonder about a co-worker - you are not allowed to ask regardless of your suspicions. She will tell you when she's darn good and ready (usually waiting until she absolutely can't hide it from her employer anymore) and she sure as hell will not make her big announcement over the office email!!! So keep your suspicions to yourself and your big mouth shut.
One person has commented on this article.  1. big papithat is incredibly rude of her to even think of asking. |
