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This is a rant about my on-again-off-again BF and the disrespectful whore that he is "friends" with... but the person I'm really angry with is myself for putting up with the situation and not cutting it off!
I've been dating and breaking up with F for the past few years, and the first I heard of his co-worker R was when F sent me through one of R's emails to see if I was comfortable or if he needed to say something to her... Needless to say the emails R was sending F at work were completely inappropriate and unprovoked. Example: F sent R an email asking what she was baking for the 'bring a plate' morning tea the next day. She replied pavlova (merangue base with cream and fruit for the non-Aussies). He replied with a joke that pavlova was too easy and that he was baking cookies. She replied with a question... "Would you prefer it if I covered myself in the whipped cream and let you lick it off?" Seriously, WHO DOES THAT YOU ARE SUCH A DISRESPECTFUL WHORE 'R'. Disrespectful of my relationship with F, but also her own relationship with her live in boyfriend! So inappropriate.
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He asked her to tone it down, but obviously, despite not meeting her, she really wasn't my favourite person in the world. I met her about six months after at a work function, where I realised that this behaviour extended to every man within arms reach, not just F. This disgusted me, as this was a black tie dinner and she was sitting and grinding on a number of men's laps wearing an orange dress with black bra straps hanging out. Classy.
Regardless, now that I knew it wasn't just about my boyfriend, I was a bit happier. Really did not feel the need to ever see her again in my life, because lets face it, a lady is known by the company she keeps and I wouldn't want to be percieved as a tramp now would I? Also she's uneducated and doesn't seem to have any conversations which don't involve over the top flirting.
At F's birthday party later that year, I did grow to REALLY dislike her as she behaved in a way that was TOTALLY disrespectful to me and just plain wrong. She showed up late with a friend, insisted on staying all night so that they could catch the first train rather than paying for a cab and proceeded to give F a (scantily clothed) lap dance. F is also to blame for this, as he should have been less of an idot and thought about how I might feel walking into the room and seeing that with all of his friends around. How does that make me look? And R should try harder with her own boyfriend, rather than trying to get the attention of everyone elses. Pathetic.
Anyway, soon after that episode we broke up. Partly because when I raised how upset I was about the whole thing, F blew up at me and accused me of not wanting him to have any friends. Super rational there F. I don't have an issue with ANY of your other friends, but try to say that you can't do something/someone you want to do and it's all of a sudden my fault? Well get the heck out!
We've been broken up for about six months now, but we've stayed friends and yes, we do hook up every now and again....
I've expressed that I don't want to be associated with this girl at all, but if there is an unavoidable event, like his birthday, I would attend and play nicely. He *conveniently* forgot this and took her to see a mutual friends gig... the FB invite list included ME, and I had 'maybe' as an acceptance and he took HER. I got a bit snippy when heard this and said that it was good that I hadn't shown up, and then he laughed and said I'd just need to 'play nicely'.
WHAT?
OK SO NOW, SOMEONE IS ALLOWED TO COMPLETELY DISRESPECT ME AND TREAT ME LIKE POO, ACT LIKE A DEPLORABLE LITTLE MISS, AND IF I DON'T JUST ACCEPT THAT AND THINK SHE'S JUST SOO FANTASTIC IT'S MY FAULT? WHY DO I HAVE TO BE THE BIGGER PERSON?
I reiterated that I would not go to the same things she was at.
When we were out the next weekend for my BFF's bithday at my (and my BFFs) absolute FAVOURITE place, F and a few of his friends came along, as they are mutual friends with me and my BFF. F kept texting someone and then said that R was also out at a nearby bar and asked if it would be ok for her to come along. WHAT THE F?! I didn't want to cause a scene but I angrily suggested that it really wouldn't be her scene, so maybe he should go to wherever R was. He said he was going for half an hour and coming back, I said we might move on so to call before coming back. I didn't answer his calls. As if I would want to see him after he'd been hanging out with her! He came to my BFF's birthday because he was invited out and she randomly texts him and he thinks it is appropriate to bail? Not likely LOSER!
I've also checked his phone since then, because I've gotten a bit angry... and yes, F and R are sending texts back and forth about me. Another night that we were out, he's sent her a text saying that he wanted to catch up with her, but I was being a 'fail' apparently and chatting away about our relationship. Seriously, HOW DARE HE!
And how stupid am I?
I haven't confronted him, don't see how I can since he'll know I checked his phone, and I just keep letting it upset me so so much! I know this rant will seem like an overreaction, but I was trying to keep this LONG rant slightly briefer by cutting out most of the backstory, because she has done a lot of other really awful things as well (including sending me messages etc).
Just wanted to UNLEASH MY ANGER at F and R, but mainly at MYSELF! Why am I so stupid!!!!???!!!
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